It’s easy to love when you feel like it.

It’s easy to love when you are getting love in return.

It’s easy to love when things go your way in life.

But what about when things are hard, and don’t go the way that you want?

Your ability to love is your freedom. And your freedom is in your choosing love regardless of what’s happening outside.

We all have those moments when it’s easier to be angry and complain, especially when we are staring injustice and cruelty in the face.

We all have those moments where people attack us and it would be justified to retaliate. But it takes real courage to love when your life circumstances seems unfair. And even greater courage when the people around you are unkind, rude, small and back-biting.

This is when it really counts.

Dare to return hate with love.

Judgment with compassion.

In that moment miracles happen.

In those moments…you become a miracle worker.

We all have those unique individuals who frustrate and challenge us.

Maybe it’s your boss, a family member, spouse, a co-worker, an ex, an in-law, or just someone in your life who knows how to push your buttons the most just by being who they are.

We often give our power away to these lovely folks. We try to change them. We resent them. We argue with them. And as a result they end up taking so much of our energy. Giving them so much of your energy is like letting them live rent free in your mind and heart!

What if those very people who challenge you the most were in fact the greatest teachers for your spiritual growth?

What if you saw those very people as “angels in disguise” sent to inspire you to become who you truly are?

What if they were the invitation to put your spirituality into actual practice in your life?

The people who challenge you the most give you the greatest opportunity to put your love into action.

Are you willing to take on that challenge?

Oftentimes we take what they do personally, but we have to realize that their perception of you is less about you and more about them. Actually, their perceptions about you reveal to you their perceptions of themselves. And when people aren’t clearly in touch with who they are as spiritual beings, they will often project onto you what they perceive you to be based upon their own conditioning and filters—which has nothing to do with you at all.

Remember who you really are.

So, who is one of the most challenging people in your life and what are they here to teach you?

It takes courage for us all to wake up every day and face life. It takes courage to wake up every day and face the unknown. It takes courage to wake up every day and to be human with all its pains and heartbreak. It takes real courage to really be alive. We all have a story. We all carry pain from experiences in our lives. We have all been through so much as human beings and yet are so resilient. If you imagine a flower, that grows on the roadside. All of a sudden a cement block is dropped on it. You would think it would shrivel away and die. But somehow the tiny flower keeps growing. Yes it’s a little crooked, but never the less it keeps growing and reaching for the sun.

We are like this flower. We all have reasons to give up. We all have reasons to be bitter. Some of them are quite good. Yet, somehow, a part of you continues to reach for the LIGHT!

As we enter Valentine’s Day, let’s be more quick to extend the hand of love instead of the hand of judgment.

Maybe that person you’re judging sitting next to you on the train has lost a child.

Maybe that angry person at the supermarket was abused mercilessly by their parents.

Maybe that person who has road rage is in such pain and heartbreak that their spouse left them.

We just don’t know.

We’re all doing the very best we can with what we have in any given moment.

It’s sometimes easy to think that being spiritual is something far removed from daily life. But real spirituality must be found within life itself—in the heart of the wildness, the craziness, the joy and the intensity of life.  We must find our freedom in the midst of it all. Sometimes, life is messy. But to avoid life is to miss life itself. To embrace life, to dive in and love fully is the real freedom.

The real spiritual practice is life itself.  To love is spirituality in action.

You get to open your hearts and love in the midst of it all.  You get to practice living in that moment to moment awareness each day. Instead of trying to get away from life to find peace—take Life on as your guru, your teacher. It’s not about finding peace in the Himalayas anymore. It’s not about finding stillness on a mountain top in Maui. Anyone can do that. It is about finding it within yourself—and living that love boldly in the everyday world.

And each moment—whether you’re cooking, eating, working, studying, playing, gardening, making love, driving, walking, taking out the trash, paying your bills, dancing or vacationing, embrace life with total awareness and take loving on as your spiritual practice. When you bring your full presence to each moment, it transforms it.

When you love fully who and where you are fully—then who and where you are becomes truly sacred.

It’s when you love fully that you are truly FREE.

This is the yoga.

The practice.

This is the invitation.

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Love.Now

Kute

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6 comments on “How to LOVE Even When It’s Difficult

  1. Flower-Jayne on

    Thank you Kute. Yes, I am longing of my love and I know my soul is seeking to express itself. Watching your video, I felt an acceptance to do this and stop being so hard on myself. I feel I will watch this video daily. Bug Hugs, Flower x

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  2. Ann-Kristin on

    Dear Kute,
    ever thought about publishing your blog as an book? Hay House? Your words are extremely helpful & come from a deep deep SOURCE within. My heartfelt thanks to you, Ann-Kristin*

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    • Kute Blackson on

      Thank you for sharing Ann-Kristin! I’m in the process of getting my book published soon…so stay tuned! Hopefully in the next year. Keep on enjoying my blogs in the meantime. Sending my heartfelt gratitude!

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  3. Amber-Lee Dibble on

    Kute,
    Hello!! I am unbelievably AWAKE now, after reading your post and especially your words:
    “What if those very people who challenge you the most were in fact the greatest teachers for your spiritual growth?

    What if you saw those very people as “angels in disguise” sent to inspire you to become who you truly are?

    What if they were the invitation to put your spirituality into actual practice in your life?

    The people who challenge you the most give you the greatest opportunity to put your love into action.”

    ~WOW. Yesterday, during Bible study, I copied these words by Rick Warren to remember: ” Love cannot be learned in isolation- you have to be around people- irritating, imperfect, frustrating people.”

    And this morning, reading your words, this post shared to my community (Global Rockstars on G+)… well, I am LISTENING. I too, have these people in my own life and the space this …fight.. is putting between us is a terrible and sad thing. I am sure that God is allowing these circumstances to continue because I am just not “getting it”…

    I believe I see the light. Thank you so much. For your words, for the love here and for sharing yourself with us all.

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    • Kute Blackson on

      Thank you for sharing from your heart Amber-Lee. I’m happy to hear it sparked an awakening. Keep on listening. You know. Believe. Sending you much love!!!

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