We all have those people in our lives that somehow manage to push our buttons.
They trigger you.
Piss you off.
Get under your skin.
They can be mean, inconsiderate, difficult to deal with, irrational, unreasonable, crazy, and seem to make your life hell.
Perhaps it’s your boss, your ex, your parents, an acquaintance, even a friend.
These people can seem impossible to deal with.
First understand that their behavior is not personal. I know it might sometimes seem that way when their energy is directed towards you.
How they treat you reveals more about themselves than it does about you.
They are already in pain, whether conscious or not, and unfortunately you happen to be the target they are projecting it towards. But it really has nothing to do with you.
How can they be kind to you if chances are they aren’t being kind to themselves?
The more you take it personally, the more you hook yourself into conflict with them.
By attacking back in retaliation, you allow them to bring you down to their level and simply empower them more. Reacting back with hate and anger simply perpetuates the situation and resolves nothing.
Choose not to play that game.
Do not give them the gift of hating them.
You can close your heart and collapse in response to how they treat you. You can let it harden your heart and make you mean. In doing so, you let them control you and have allowed them to determine who you are going to be and how you are going to express. You have given them your power.
It may not always be easy, but you always have a choice how to respond in any given situation and with anyone.
You have a choice.
So when dealing with a seemingly “impossible” person, imagine that inside of them is a little child. For some, that inner child is in more pain than others which is why they act the way they do. It’s not an excuse to condone how they might treat you, just a way to stay centered in your heart.
If you are able to remember that child inside of them, it makes it easier to step back and meet them with compassion. When you respond with love you then set yourself free.
It doesn’t mean you have to accept abuse, or even keep interacting with that person. Set your boundaries. Take care of yourself. Speak your truth. Do what you feel is right to honor yourself, but do it with compassion.
Remember that these impossible people give you the greatest opportunity to live your love. They are angels sent to you in disguise that will cause you to grow the most.
They are your spiritual teachers sent to ensure that you are living in reality what you know deep in your heart.
You can shut down or you can bless them and thank their souls.
Imagine if Gandhi didn’t have impossible people opposing him?
Imagine if Mandela didn’t have impossible people who put him in prison for 26 years?
Choose to embrace the opportunity they are giving you to be a higher expression of love.
There are no impossible people, just bigger opportunities for you to love.
Will you love that big?
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