A man sent me an email asking for my advice:
“I am dating an amazing woman whom I love. But I am not sure I am ready to settle down in a committed relationship. I still want to date other women and be free! What should I do?”
Real freedom is a state of being.
Nothing outside you will make you feel free if you aren’t free within yourself.
As men we sometimes mistakenly think that being in a committed relationship will limit our freedom.
This is not true.
We mistakenly seek for freedom in the external world. But real freedom isn’t in the world, it’s in the depth of your being.
Seeking freedom in the external world is a misplaced desire. You are actually intuiting the perfection of deep consciousness.
You think that dating multiple women will make you free, but will it really?
Be careful that you aren’t simply being a slave to your biology and desires.
Remember that you are freedom itself but you just forgot for a moment.
The key to freedom is to have a connection to source aka the Divine. When you have connection to source and your partner has a connection to the Divine, you can stay free together in love, in relationship together.
Then your relationship is held in a bigger context than your small limited ego self.
The deep impulse within the masculine is the drive for freedom. So unless a man has a spiritual practice where he is accessing freedom within himself, he is likely to feel trapped inside a relationship whether he admits it to himself or anyone else..
A man must have a spiritual practice where he goes beyond, transcends himself, and accesses the inner freedom.
When you connect with who you really are, then the structure of a committed relationship no longer determines your freedom.
You are already free.
You are freedom.
When you are free, you are not stuck in a tightly identifying with your persona. You know that what you are is infinite.
Then you are truly able to make an authentic choice in regards to how you want to do your relationships.
Then you can discern if you are simply running away out of fear of letting go or whether you need to transcend your fear and surrender to real love. Surrendering to real love can be scary since it requires a letting go of control, a sort of death.
To love is the greatest freedom. And the greatest freedom is to love.
When you commit to love, you set yourself free.
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