Asking for help is a vulnerable thing.
It takes real courage.
Pretending you don’t need it is a sure sign of weakness.
When you are truly strong, you can allow yourself to be vulnerable.
Vulnerability is not weakness, rather it is deeper strength.
It takes a strong person to acknowledge they need help.
It takes an even stronger one to ask for it.
It takes yet a stronger one to accept and receive it.
It’s often easier at times to be the one giving to others rather than the one receiving. To receive is to open your heart and let someone into it. To receive is to allow someone to touch you deeply.
For much of my own life, I saw that not asking for help was my way to avoid being disappointed and a way to protect my heart from hurt.
As I matured, I realized that:
No one does it alone.
No one succeeds alone.
No one is an island.
As souls, we need nothing as we are nothing and everything.
Yet as human beings having a human experience, we are relational creatures and DO need each other. I am not talking about need based on codependency or lack, but a need based on our mutual humanity.
There is often a bad rap in the spiritual circles about needing.
Need has become a dirty word.
We do need each other, and at the deepest level we are ONE. Within us is a deeper underlying impulse to connect and share. This is the impulse toward oneness that underlies all existence.
You might have had a moment when you thought that you aren’t worthy of receiving.
The truth is who you are is enough. You don’t have to be anything to earn love or prove your worth. Just you being alive is your value and inherent worth. You deserve love.
Nothing you do will make you lovable. Nothing you don’t do will make you unlovable.
You simply are lovable just as you are.
It’s not selfish to ask for help or to receive. It’s natural.
When you ask for help, you also give others a gift. In receiving you are giving. When you refuse help, you rob others the blessing of opening their hearts in giving to you.
The giving and receiving are a part of the same cycle.
The entire universe is giving to you each moment. Air is giving you life. Nature is giving you beauty. The sun is giving you light and warmth.
Life isn’t cheap but abundantly generous with it’s giving.
So how much love are you willing to open your heart and allow yourself to receive?
The universe is seeking to support you.
When you ask for help, it may often not come from the person you think it was going to come from. So drop your attachment to who, where, and how your support should come. Simply allow yourself to be open and available to the infinite Grace of the Universe.
Dare to ask for help, rather than silently suffering, thinking those around you should psychically know what you need. This is the victim’s way.
If you don’t ask, you won’t receive.
Look at Gandhi. Martin Luther King. Mother Theresa. Nelson Mandela. They all made a big request of those around them. It took the collective help of community to cause a revolution.
What support are you willing to ask for now?
If you want to receive big, you must ask big. But when you ask, let go of attachment.
Be open and available.
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