We have all had those moments of feeling the fear of being abandoned, left, or alone, whether it’s in intimate relationships or by friends. It can be scary as well as painful.

When I was in my early twenties, I often felt this gripping fear of abandonment, especially in my romantic relationships. And as a result, I used to feel afraid of being my true self. My fear was “If I am fully myself… If you know who I really am… then you won’t love me, and you will leave.”

Needless to say, I felt no peace within.

From childhood, we learn to hide who we are in order to be loved and accepted. When you betray yourself, you are trading a part of yourself in order to be loved. Sadly in the process, you end up betraying yourself. It’s not worth it.

When you think that you are lacking something inside, or that you aren’t whole and complete, you end up seeking it outside thinking that person will somehow complete you.

This creates dependency since you have made the other person responsible for your sense of freedom and inner security. You will never feel free living this way. Real freedom is an inside job.

The part of you that is afraid of abandonment is a part of you that is calling out for your love and attention.

The more you love yourself, the less you will need love from people outside, the stronger you become within. Then the easier it is to NOT betray yourself and make self honoring choices. Either you give love to yourself in a healthy way, or you will seek it outside in unhealthy ways that cause you pain.

As you do this, the fear of abandonment falls away because no matter what, you have YOU! You are then, never alone.

Commit to you.

Reassure yourself.

Love yourself.

Be your own best friend.

Loving yourself is in your hands. It’s the power that you have.

When you love yourself you set yourself FREE.

Set yourself FREE and love yourself!



P.S. If you feel ready to find your life purpose, gain self acceptance and live your best life. Join me for a life changing journey on July 4-15th, www.boundlessblissbali.com

P.P.S. I would love to hear your comments in the box below.

54 comments on “Overcoming the Fear of Abandonment

  1. teresa on

    Dear Kute this message from you was divinely timed, as so many things are in life! I have been working on this philosophy for many years and am now finally getting the hang of it…yeah! My dear husband is struggling to believe this for himself. Much love for your gift of imparting your wisdom to ears willing to listen.

  2. Sally on

    Thank you so much Kute. I just love the way you express your message, its so straight to the point, easy to understand and certainly hits the mark!
    I am so grateful to my friend Stephne in London who gave me your website address. Count me in as a regular! With love, Sally

  3. Royce on

    LOVE – NOW!!!!!!

    Kute you never cease to amaze!!!!

    Thank you for a timely message and well needed reminder!
    I love myself MORE after experiencing the MBE this past weekend in LA! Thank you to you and your team, you all are doing Wonderfully GREAT work and I vow to be a part of it someWAY, someHOW!!!

    LOVE – NOW!

    • Kute Blackson on

      Royce!!! Thank you! I hope you’ve been integrating well since MBE weekend. Happy that you were and are a part of this amazing revolution for women. Much love to you!!! Keep on!!

  4. Rosie on

    I did the MBE in LA last weekend and came home to my sick dog. She is at the Vet on IV and I am not sure if she will survive.

    I needed this lift tonight. My sweet Chica may be dying and I feel her pain and suffering….and I feel my loneliness tonight without her here with me. I needed to remember that we are never alone……..we are one….and the love is now pouring from me to her and to all….and to me. Thank you.

    • Kute Blackson on

      Yes Rosie, We are one. Sending you and your dog love and healing. Happy that you were a part of MBE weekend! It’s just the beginning Rosie!!! Love.Now!

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