It’s your life.

Are you living boldly?

Or are you playing it safe?

Safe is risky. Safe is an illusion. Safe is death.

Whose life are you living? Yours or someone else’s?

It’s your life. Not your parent’s, brother’s, cousin’s, friend’s or neighbor’s.

We are constantly bombarded by the media and sold the lie: “Who you are is not enough”!

We are taught to fit in. To play it safe. To seek approval. To be realistic. This process begins from the moment we are born. We are told who we need to be in order to get love and survive. We learn to play “The Game.” But ironically, the better you play the game, the more you lose …. YOU.

The Rules of the Game:

Conform: Don’t make too many waves. Hold back your full self-expression and authentic truth, so that you can be popular.

Settle: Staying in relationships that don’t light you up because it’s safe and comfortable, so that you have security and won’t be alone.

Be practical: Don’t pursue your dreams and true passions. Be realistic and responsible so that you don’t look like a fool in society’s eyes.

Don’t be too happy: If you’re too happy (especially for no tangible reason) people get irritated, so only allow the minimal amount.

Life is short and before you know it, it is over. The real question is not “When will I die?” but “How will I live?”

When you get to the end of your life will you be able to say that you lived fully, and did all you dreamed to do, or will you be filled with regret?

Did you lick every ounce of bliss out of life?

We glorify saints, but they live in remote lands. We glorify the angels, but their feet do not touch the ground. We glorify superheroes, but they’re not real. It takes true courage to be in this life, with all its mess, its ups and downs, light and dark, sweetness and bitterness. It takes courage to be who you really are. Perhaps this is why so many of us turn away, and settle, opting for safe lives of soul-numbing superficial satiation. It’s easier to stay skeptical, be jaded, live in the mind, hide behind sarcasm, and erect walls of defensiveness. Sadly, it’s easier to play small and protect ourselves from the disappointment of living full out, with all its risks.

Even to the extreme, my friend, when you display great feats, it doesn’t take real courage to firewalk, skydive, or climb a mountain. It really doesn’t. It takes courage to be honest with yourself and speak your truth to those around you.

It takes courage to face your addictions, and get help.

It takes courage to reach out and risk vulnerability in love.

It takes courage to pick yourself up off the floor after rejection or failure.

It takes courage to humble your ego, give up defensiveness, and simply say, “I’m sorry.”

It takes courage to open your heart and love after your heart has been broken or betrayed.

It takes courage to forgive, even when you know that you’re right.

I say it takes real courage to be who you REALLY are.

What is it you really want to be, do, say, live and express?


Dive in.

Do it.


Climb it.

Kiss more.

Say it.

Travel it.

Let it.





Seize it.


There comes a moment in your life when you just have to say the 2 magic words.

Go for it.

Say it. Loud……………..

“Fuck it!”

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P.P.S. I would love to hear what bold action you’re committing to taking today!

26 comments on “F%#k It! The 2 magic words to live boldly.

  1. Linda on

    This rocks! I was cracking up. The minute you said Robertson, I knew who you were going to profile. That guy has been doing that dance for as long as I’ve been in L.A… at least 25 years! Can you imagine? Great piece, Kute. You look so great on camera, too. What a wonderful spokesperson you are! xx Linda

  2. Maja on

    Great blog post! love it and it is soooooooo very true! Now I am off to taken action on something I had been putting off…. as I had been “playing it safe”….No MORE! 🙂 Make it an amazing day!!

  3. Sindy on

    Wonderful Kute, thanks for the reminder. There is so much that supports the fear and mediocrity in life, it is so wonderful to have a passionate, playful reminder of the Truth!

  4. Ben on

    Kute I am really getting excited. I love it. It is a New World that I am entering. Thank you for your support in your message.

  5. Bodhi on

    The Deliquescent Dancer
    by Bodhi

    Whirling naked in the moonlight flood
    I howl my passion to the watching stars.
    Starstruck, moonstruck, lovestruck,
    I fling myself upon the dew-soaked grass.

    Spinning, rolling, tumbling,
    Cooling droplets coat my lunatic skin with post-coital memories.
    As I suck the moisture from each blade,
    I feel the wine-stained ecstasy soak into my soul –
    Water into wine!

    Held in the memory of your embrace
    I am Love Reborn.

  6. chris on

    My personal version is “F Mondays!”
    (or whatever you want to call them)

    forget those stories we tell ourselves that contain/restrain us from our source/true self

  7. Sylvia Johnson on

    Kute, Hahaha! I really liked this one! Too funny and it’s so true and I make it a point to remember to say this everyday to remind myself! We all need to remember to infuse more courage in our life and just go for it to live in our truth and an authentic soulful life! Thanks for this message.

  8. Rhonda on

    I love this, say it all the time. But now is the time to live it. Thank you! I am not for sure how I found you, but you are awesome!

  9. Han on

    “f*** It!” So so liberating! I’ve been through a lot and it can be easy to get down about it and worry… I’ve done a lot of healing, but this simple bit of foul-mouthed wisdom (my fave kind if I’m honest, it appeals to the rebel in me) is confidence building and helps me to feel like I no longer care about what happened… which is great as that means there’s space in my life for a new script!

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