One of the most painful experiences is the feeling of being betrayed, especially by someone you love and trusted.
When your romantic partner cheats on you with someone else.
When you are being taken advantage of or treated unfairly.
When certain agreements you made with another gets changed without discussion.
Betrayal hurts and can sometimes feel deeply heartbreaking. It’s natural to feel hurt, angry, resentful, and even to want to close your heart as a way to protect yourself from the pain.
Acknowledge the hurt, feel it, express it, but don’t let it shut down your heart forever. As you feel the pain, know that it will pass and you will rise up again. As painful as it may be, your heart is resilient, and stronger than you can ever imagine.
When you have been betrayed it’s natural to feel like a victim, but this only disempowers you and your ability to create the future you want. So give up any sense of victimhood.
It takes courage to take responsibility for what happened to you, especially when you felt you were wronged. You can’t control what and how people behave towards you, so if you stay focused on this, you will stay stuck in pain. However, you can control how you respond.
When you stay stuck in anger and resentment, you give the person who hurt you much power over you.
No one is worth your happiness and freedom.
If you have been betrayed, take your power back by forgiving those that hurt you, as well as forgiving yourself for any judgements towards yourself for what you should or could have done.
So when you feel betrayed, rather than pointing your finger making another person wrong, take responsibility by asking yourself these questions:
- What’s my part in creating this relationship, situation and dynamic?
- What is the other person mirroring to me about myself?
- How do I betray myself?
- What is the lesson that I am supposed to learn from this person and situation?
Everyone you meet is your teacher, and some of your greatest teachers are the ones that have caused you the most pain. They are the ones that force you to heal your wounds, learn your lessons once and for all, and facilitate your greatest growth. They are angels in disguise accelerating your evolution.
When you stay stuck in the pain making them wrong, even though they may be, you miss the gift in the situation.
Perhaps, your moment of betrayal is a huge wake up call to look inside and see where you aren’t fully loving or honoring yourself. Use the betrayal as a catalyst to commit to yourself fully.
Your relationships with others tend to be a mirror of your relationship with yourself. You attract to you a person that reflects you to you.
Do you like what you see?
If not, you have the power to make the shift and change yourself. The more you love and honor yourself, the more you will attract people into your life that reflect this to you.
Love yourself and set yourself free.
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