Just the word itself can sometimes feel scary.
In our culture we tend to shy away from it. Often from a young age we are taught to suppress our authentic anger. We are told that it is not OK, it’s not appropriate, it’s not spiritual.
So we learn to disconnect and suppress our anger in order to be loved, and accepted by those around us.
The problem is, what you don’t feel and express in conscious healthy ways will inevitably end up coming out and expressing in unhealthy ways.
Here’s a few simple points to consider:
- Anger is a signal, neither good or bad. It’s telling you that something inside you is needing attention. So rather than see it as something bad, begin to see it as a blessing. When you listen and embrace the message of your anger you can feel your truth more deeply and make choices that are self-honoring.
- Give yourself full permission to feel the anger. Anger is simply energy. We are often afraid to feel it because we sometimes think it will last forever. But no feelings are permanent. All feelings have a natural cycle and fully felt will dissolve. Often underneath the anger is a deeper sadness, so feel it fully and let it go.
- Create spaces in your life to be able to acknowledge, feel and express the anger. If your life is so busy with work, friends/family or distractions, you may not be able to access the anger that is inside you. Allow yourself to have quiet moments of stillness, where you can feel, journal, move your body or whatever you need to do in order to express your anger in healthy ways.
- Sometimes we hold onto anger because there is a payoff. If you are stuck in anger, ask yourself, “What’s the payoff for holding on?” Perhaps you get to be right. Or by holding onto anger, you use it as a protection from risking opening your heart again. Be honest with yourself.
Regardless of what happened in your past, take responsibility for how you feel today. You can’t control what happened then, but you can control what happens now. When you decide to let go and forgive, you set yourself free. This is a power that you own.
That’s not to say that the things that others did were OK, and it wouldn’t be nice if they apologized. But to wait is to put your freedom in their hands. Your freedom and forgiveness doesn’t have to depend on someone else’s apology. You don’t NEED someone else to get closure. Getting closure is an inner process with yourself. You get closure when you take responsibility, forgive, let go and live your life fully.
Nothing and no one is worth your freedom.
Life is too short.
Any unnecessary moments spent in anger are moments wasted that cannot be returned.
Live your life.
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