Have you ever found yourself asking this question?

Sometimes things happen, and they make sense.  You understand.

But then other times things happen that leave you scratching your head. They are incredibly challenging. You experience tremendous pain. You just don’t  understand, no matter how much you try.


A lover leaves you.

A loved one dies.

Your dream plan falls through.

Someone you love betrays you

You get fired from your job.

You get into an accident that leaves you injured.

You face a life threatening illness.

All of these difficult situations can leave you feeling confused, hurt or angry. We have all been there.

When you are in the midst of a situation itself, it can be excruciatingly painful.

But I want you to also remember that sometimes the real reason you are going through the experience often gets revealed later on and isn’t so apparent at first.

We often only see our experiences through a certain perspective . We only see part of the picture. Our view point is somewhat limited.

What can often seem like something terrible today could turn out to be something amazing tomorrow. However, we only see this once we have come through it.

It’s then we realize that it could not have been any different. Life needed to be the way it was. The situation although challenging forced you to grow, and become more of who you really are. The challenging situation was the necessary fire to give brith to the diamond you ultimately are. The challenging situation led you in a new direction, and opened up new opportunities and meeting new people that you otherwise would not have.

Often what you think something is actually isn’t and what you think isn’t in reality is. Don’t be so sure that you know why something is actually going on in your life at that moment.

Your biggest breakdowns can be your biggest breakthroughs. They can teach you the most about what is real, who you are, and what is truly important in your life.They can cause you to let go of everything that is inauthentic and serve as a wake up call. They can end up leading you the your soulmate, or your dream career. You just never know.

So when things happen that you don’t understand, develop a curiousity about it rather than being too quick to make up a meaning that causes misery or keeps you disempowered.

Ask: What could possibly be seeking to happen?

The way you choose to view something determines the meaning you give it, and the meaning you give it determines your reality. Your perspective determines your how much power you experience at any given moment.

Choose a perspective that empowers you.


-Oprah lost her job as a newscaster and then that led to her doing her own talkshow. The rest is history.

-Lance Armstrong was diagnosed with cancer but recovered and motivated himself back to win 7 consecutive Tour de France championships.

-Bethany Hamilton lost an arm but found her life’s calling to inspire to millions. As well as realizing her pro surfing dreams.

So when you are in the midst of a challenging situation:

-Take a deep breath and step back for a moment.

-Embrace the situation you find yourself in.

-Don’t be so quick to judge yourself or the situation.

-Ask your self “What is my lesson here? What can I learn?”

-Stay open and curious as to what is seeking to happen.

-Move forward with faith and trust in the universe.

-Surrender. Let go of control.

Sometimes your greatest gifts come gift wrapped in a covering of crisis. You just need to take the wrapping off and look a little deeper.

The real gift will soon become apparent if YOU are open.

Love. Now


P.S I would love to here your about any experiences that you went through that might have been challenging at first but then turned out to be a blessing.


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6 comments on “Why is this happening to me?

  1. yor on

    Thank you for sharing your wisdom. I”m glad I’ve “accidentally” found you. When I read you I feel you put my experience into words. Thanks for allowing us share them as well.

  2. Camille on

    Thanks so much!! This is a beautiful post and I love the end, “Sometimes your greatest gifts come gift wrapped in a covering of crisis. You just need to take the wrapping off and look a little deeper.” That is so TRUE!! 🙂

  3. Michael Mucciolo on

    So True. In making an appointment with my doctor of years, I found he had switched to another group that does not take my medical insurance. “Why me?” I asked. I couldn’t change insurance carriers mid year, so I had to change doctors. “But he knows me so well” my negative voice-in-my-head said. I told my negative voice to “shut up” and make the best of it.
    My new doctor suspected an aneurism and ordered tests. His call started with “I have good news and bad news.” The good news – no aneurism. The bad news – I had a tumor. Further research showed it had been there for years. It is a slow growing type that can become cancerous if left unattended. Luckily it was discovered in time. Had I not changed doctors, it may have been discovered in the worst way. Treatment starts Wednesday and I am going to be OK. Thank you for the reminder and all you do.


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